Thank you for checking out my blog! To start, I’ll tell you a bit about myself. I am an autistic teen who recently received an official diagnosis, although I had known about my autism for a while. Although I do not believe functioning labels exist, I feel that it’s important to include that I am considered high functioning. I do, however, struggle with a lot of the same things that other autistic people struggle with. I have struggled with these things without help my entire life, and I have learned a lot about what it means to be autistic in today’s society.
Because of my own experience as an autistic person, and because I know how overwhelming and confusing it is to parent an autistic child, I am here to be a voice for the autistic community and to shed some light on things that neurotypical people do not understand. I have named this blog “Common Sense” because I feel that common sense seems to be what tears apart autistic people and the rest of the world, and I want to bridge that gap. When I say that I mean that the things that are common sense to me are wildly confusing to neurotypical people, and vice versa. However, through experience, attentiveness, and constant effort to connect with people I do not understand, I’ve learned some ways that parents can better understand and communicate with their autistic kids, and how those kids can grow up to function in a world full of people that don’t understand them.
I put so much focus on parents because autistic kids need their parents in ways that nerotypical kids don’t. As an autistic kid, you are set up to fail. You are born into a world that cannot be bothered to understand and accept your neurology, and you don’t seem to fit in anywhere. That’s a big reason why autistic kids need their parents so much- no one else will make the effort to understand us and give us what we need, so we need you to. Some parents are happy to put in the extra effort and don’t have as difficult of a time understanding their child’s condition. A lot of parents, however, are confused, stretched thin, and tired of seeing their babies in so much pain. I get it, and I want to help.
When you as a parent understand your autistic child, you open up a valuable connection between you and your child, and you create a space for them that allows them to thrive. When that is present you can send them out into a world full of people that feel threatening to them, because they know they have you on their side. Your kids have plenty of hope to be successful out in the world, but it starts with a healthy and happy home, and you are fully capable of providing that. It will take extra effort, but it is so worth it.
My goal here is to help autistic people feel understood and to help other members of my community to see hope for themselves, and to help parents of autistic kids bridge the gap between themselves and their kids. I will be uploading as much as possible, and please keep in mind that I am always open to questions or topic requests and I would love to talk about anything you need to hear about.
I wish you all the best of luck in coping with autism and learning to love it.